My Closet

“Personality changes along with clothes.”

This line had been bothering my thoughts for some time now. Ever since I’ve heard of these words, I started to think, “Does my personality really changes along with my clothes or my clothes changes with my personality?”

Personality, or “the complex of characteristics that distinguishes an individual,” is indeed a complex idea. It could be mistaken as the behavior, attitude, emotional characteristics, or even distinct traits, when in fact it is the totality of those things. Personality is what makes us a person, rooting from the word’ PERSON’.

“Don’t mistake my attitude with my personality. My personality is what I am, my attitude depends on who you are.”

My personality had always been described by other people as funny, simple and typical (these are the things that my family and friends usually thinks), and because of that I started to think, “Yeah, that’s probably me, “or “Perhaps, it was the entirety of being me.”

Depending on how I dress on normal days, I don’t wear that ‘girly’ look. I love my pants, my t-shirts and my rubber shoes. There were days that I wore blouses paired with my pants and chucks. I lose my long curly hair because I want to. I just love those clothes, and that style, it’s very comfy for me. And on those days that I wore my normal clothing’s, I’m still me-- the clumsy, funny and carefree me.

I, also, dress well on occasions. Of course, I wore dresses when I need to, I sometimes wear my pumps, and again, if it’s the right thing to wear on that certain occasion, and yet, I am still the same, I still talk the same way when I wore my pants, the same way when I wore my dress, well, maybe a lil’ bit reserved, but not totally. You ask why? Because it would be easier to act like your normal self than pretending to be someone else for other people to like you. Also, being reserved is a good thing, especially for the first time meetings because they would anticipate for something from you. Another thing is,what if the time comes when I hang-out, again, with the same people I’ve hanged-out with before and they saw my normal self, they might think that I changed, when it was the real me, that what they saw the first time was a sham, an act to being someone I’m not.

Because other people see me as a funny, sweet, and simple girl, because of the way I dress, which are also some of the characteristics of a heterosexual female (straight girls), others always see me as a straight girl, which was kind of a burden to me, especially when they start to ask things like boyfriends, daily girly routines, boyfriends, skin care, boyfriends, jewelries, boyfriends, hot male superstars, boyfriends, hair spa and salons, and lastly, boyfriends.

And that felt like the most perfect time to the drop the bomb like, “Excuse me! I’m a bisexual!” And they’re all gonna be like, “Woah really!? But you look straight to me.”

See? The problem starts there. And because of that, those people keep pressuring me to be straight because I look like one. I mean, can’t bisexual females wear pants and blouses, doll shoes, shirts and skirts, and chucks. If not, then what should I wear? What should be worn?

Like what I stated at the beginning, a personality is the totality of being a person. Then, if I believed in the statement, “Personality changes along with clothes, “it means that if I changed my clothing, I will be a different person.

Our expressions, or the way we act, speak, or even how we dress can be different from our gender identity. As for me, I am a bisexual woman, I like guys and girls. I can be attracted to my same and opposite sex. I have the desires of both heterosexual and homosexual, yet I express myself as a carefree, funny, simple girl. I dress how straight girls because that’s how I want to present myself.

Same for you, you don’t have to change your clothes or the way you express yourself just because other people don’t understand that gay people can wear pants, too. You don’t need to make your hair short because you are a lesbian. Bisexuals can also wear skirts, you know, and it’s perfectly fine. Queer people can be whoever they want, and it’s okay.

Our sexuality, gender identity and our expressions are parts of us being a person. We don’t need to change our clothing and the way we express ourselves, just to satisfy the gender comments.

As for me, it is simply because I am proud of being me. I’m proud being myself. Most especially, I’m proud being bisexual.

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